A friend, and mother of two, recently told me a story of the impact social media had on her family. Her sister was devaluing her self worth and life because people she followed on Instagram seemed so perfect. It made her think she was doing things wrong and missing out on life. It created jealousy and lack of self esteem. I think we all feel this way from time to time. Social media is so involved with our lifestyle that it can impact our moods, decisions, and relationships.
Do you follow a Instagram Super Mom? Her pictures are whitewashed and perfectly styled. She wears heels pushing a stroller with a bouquet of fresh flowers in her had. She has the most stylish diaper bag and her kids are always perfectly dressed and clean. And those vacations.... It's only March and Her family has been to Hawaii, Disney-world, and Paris. Her house could be featured in Dwell magazine and each room straight out of a Potter Barn Catalog. Always clean, always baking, and most importantly...... IT'S ALWAYS STAGED.
Don't be fooled fellow mamas. She took those clean pictures while her kids were sleeping. She moved everything to one side of the room to redecorate that perfect reading corner. She purchased those flowers for herself and has a pair of sneaker in that cute backpack ready to put on. Her husband takes a zillion photos to get that one shot that looks effortless. SHE IS A BRAND. Her brand is to sell this idea of an easy breezy prefect motherhood.
It's not really a trick. Don't get angry at them. You would't yell at a movie director because the movie seemed unbelievable. Instead think of these Social Media accounts as ads in a magazine.
Do you follow a Instagram Super Mom? Her pictures are whitewashed and perfectly styled. She wears heels pushing a stroller with a bouquet of fresh flowers in her had. She has the most stylish diaper bag and her kids are always perfectly dressed and clean. And those vacations.... It's only March and Her family has been to Hawaii, Disney-world, and Paris. Her house could be featured in Dwell magazine and each room straight out of a Potter Barn Catalog. Always clean, always baking, and most importantly...... IT'S ALWAYS STAGED.
Don't be fooled fellow mamas. She took those clean pictures while her kids were sleeping. She moved everything to one side of the room to redecorate that perfect reading corner. She purchased those flowers for herself and has a pair of sneaker in that cute backpack ready to put on. Her husband takes a zillion photos to get that one shot that looks effortless. SHE IS A BRAND. Her brand is to sell this idea of an easy breezy prefect motherhood.
It's not really a trick. Don't get angry at them. You would't yell at a movie director because the movie seemed unbelievable. Instead think of these Social Media accounts as ads in a magazine.
Unless you are selling merchandise or lifestyle brand
please try to have an un-edited Social Media presence.
I totally get it. Why we edit our photos to make our lives seem better. I want all my friends and family to think I am happy, healthy, and doing great. Even when I am not. I guess that is the real problem. How can we help each other and relate to each other when we don't fully understand how you live. Share your messy house photos. Take a picture of your kids covered in food or mud. And be honest. When you take a picture of your beautiful homemade artisan bread share an honest story. Example: while I was baking this tasty Italian Parmesan loaf my 2 year old ran into the bathroom yelling "poo-poo". We are deep in potty training which means dropping everything and running to the toilet. Motherhood means cheering on a toddler while he poops. As a reward we are going to slice this bread, butter it and eat while watching Doc McStuffins. Cheers!
Do I sound judgy? I am not trying to be. If you prefer to use a whitewash filter and to only share photos that are perfectly staged, that's fine. You do you. But are you doing it because you are trying to be a business, a brand, or an influencer? Or are you trying to hide the truth from your followers?
Do I sound judgy? I am not trying to be. If you prefer to use a whitewash filter and to only share photos that are perfectly staged, that's fine. You do you. But are you doing it because you are trying to be a business, a brand, or an influencer? Or are you trying to hide the truth from your followers?